tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post644116135437926621..comments2024-03-15T14:47:21.170-04:00Comments on Lemon Gloria: The letyougonessLemon Gloriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-65699313188805324332008-01-27T00:56:00.000-05:002008-01-27T00:56:00.000-05:00Having grown up the same way you did, I can so, so...Having grown up the same way you did, I can so, so relate. I've never given it a name like the letyougoness, I think of it in terms of boxes. Each time we moved, I mentally had to put the old people and old place in a box and put it away up on a shelf in the back of my brain, high up where it's hard for me to reach. Because otherwise? It would have been impossible to love so many people in so many places as intensely as I did, only to have to leave them every few years. And of course, the one time I really, really neede d my boxing-up ability -- with my Mr. Big -- it failed me.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14574959237959082661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-85476764743875064212007-12-20T10:13:00.000-05:002007-12-20T10:13:00.000-05:00Few things: 1) I'm really only commenting because ...Few things: <BR/><BR/>1) I'm really only commenting because this post is such a stark contrast from the "Just say yes" post...it seems. Having read this post, it doesn't feel like the same person wrote them. <BR/><BR/>2) I have other words of so called wisdom but I'd feel too preachy, ehh. I pardon everyone today...you're all getting off light =PAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-47809694993923027092007-12-18T13:46:00.000-05:002007-12-18T13:46:00.000-05:00It's just easier when you view every thing as temp...It's just easier when you view every thing as temporary, isn't it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-38754182840632659862007-12-14T15:42:00.000-05:002007-12-14T15:42:00.000-05:00Useless! Useless, I am, on this topic!With exactly...Useless! Useless, I am, on this topic!<BR/><BR/>With exactly one exception, I would break up with every person I dated after 1-5 months, even if we got back together again 11 times. (This actually happened. 11 times. I was ahead 8-3 when it finally ended for good.)<BR/><BR/>I have dated one person for longer, and we've been together for 14 years. If she ever gave me the boot, I'm not so sure that I wouldn't be the same old Captain Outtahere that I was in the 80's and 90's.Rich | Championablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04465242424716799056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-46406435969302506332007-12-13T16:58:00.000-05:002007-12-13T16:58:00.000-05:00Amanda - I can absolutely see how that could happe...Amanda - I can absolutely see how that could happen, and how it could be exactly on/off like a light switch.Lemon Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-59998884565402860492007-12-13T10:32:00.000-05:002007-12-13T10:32:00.000-05:00I just wanted to say that this was an amazing post...I just wanted to say that this was an amazing post. I don't have the letyougoness in the same way. For me, it comes quickly with people I even really love. When they don't come through for me in a major way or if my they get angry during an argument and yell. The first time, I'm able to overlook but if it happens twice, it's like a light switch goes off and I actually feel myself fall out of love with them. I go completely cold and from that point on, they can't hurt me anymore.amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10277415223553671813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-37302507324462926902007-12-13T10:14:00.000-05:002007-12-13T10:14:00.000-05:00moosie - That makes a lot of sense to me, actually...moosie - That makes a lot of sense to me, actually, and I agree - I don't know which is perferable. Thank you for sharing. <BR/><BR/>2x4 - I love the idea of that kind of permanence.Lemon Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-64918259855099510932007-12-12T17:32:00.000-05:002007-12-12T17:32:00.000-05:00Like many others, I grew up moving every six month...Like many others, I grew up moving every six months to three years. I know of the letyougoness. I, too, took until my 30s to realize that I could love permanently. <BR/><BR/>It's an amazing feeling, this sense of permanence. It's like family. Nuclear family that is. Because in spite of all the changing and new people, missed people, grandparents elsewhere, and what the heck is our address and phone number, there was always the same older brother, younger sister, father and mother.twobuyfourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18195751674340015830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-69394817040358311782007-12-12T16:51:00.000-05:002007-12-12T16:51:00.000-05:00I had the same childhood, being a military brat, s...I had the same childhood, being a military brat, shuttled off to base after base and perfecting that letyougoness...but i think i have the reverse of your reaction. I hold on til there isn't anything left to hold onto. If something is around for more than six months at a time, I clutch at it like it will never happen again, because generally when I was growing up, it didn't.<BR/><BR/>I can't figure out which of our reactions is better.*moosie*https://www.blogger.com/profile/00861759206361346609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-90381957005154848082007-12-12T15:36:00.000-05:002007-12-12T15:36:00.000-05:00You know, I've not been able to do this with every...You know, I've not been able to do this with everyone. I couldn't let go of my old boyfriend for so long, and it would've been like Christmas if I could have. And there were a couple other guys who really got under my skin. But now I think it's fear-fueled. I don't know that I am able to pick the scariest direction.Lemon Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-45190040758020032132007-12-12T13:44:00.000-05:002007-12-12T13:44:00.000-05:00For once, I cannot say I understand completely. Be...For once, I cannot say I understand completely. Because I? Cannot let go, until the other person has lapsed so severely that I've been disappointed... beyond.<BR/><BR/>I don't recommend this as a method. But when trying to figure out how to actually let someone matter, for real? I usually pick whatever feels scariest and go in that direction.<BR/><BR/>Good luck!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11838430978051872591noreply@blogger.com