tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post8927157849105472605..comments2024-03-15T14:47:21.170-04:00Comments on Lemon Gloria: And to top it off I was genuinely considering using Britney Spears lyrics for a titleLemon Gloriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-29795355408036904972009-02-23T13:00:00.000-05:002009-02-23T13:00:00.000-05:00I really feel for you. Really, I do. I'm sitting ...I really feel for you. Really, I do. I'm sitting here at my desk with horrible stomach pains (stretching of my uterus, they tell me), heart burn, and sore hips from sleeping in the same position (on my side, the only "safe" way to sleep while pregnnt) all night. So yeah. I feel your pain. But at least I'm pooping regularly again!<BR/><BR/>My advice (from one pregnant lady to another): 1) Take daily fiber tablets. 2) talk to your doctor about switching from prenatals to a children's vitamin + folic acid (it's the iron in prenatals that causes the poop problems) 3) embrace maternity pants. I know you're still a bit small and not "looking" pregnant, but once you make the switch, you'll be happy you did. Wear a bella band to keep them up, but don't try to force yourself into things that aren't meant for an expanding belly. 4) The Perfect Pregnancy Workout. I've been doing this DVD for a while, and the woman kicks my ass every time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-67172884439717947382009-02-23T10:53:00.000-05:002009-02-23T10:53:00.000-05:00I volunteer to take a mental health day with you i...I volunteer to take a mental health day with you if you want to go have a blow-off-steam day with me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-55437344960642779162009-02-23T10:44:00.000-05:002009-02-23T10:44:00.000-05:00Ohmygosh - I hope you are feeling better today!!!!...Ohmygosh - I hope you are feeling better today!!!! <BR/>I'm glad you are able to deal with your feelings, and express them, as they hit you. So you cry when you feel like it? Big deal...let it out. It's hormones, not you, that are going crazy. Eventually, they'll even out again. It won't last forever (couldn't possibly, or we'd be in a world full of only children). And I have to agree with the poster above, who said you should take some pamper-Lisa-time and go to a spa, or do whatever else you want that will make you feel normal. Hang in there! We'll be with you, to listen and support and cheer you on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-46619035569328011402009-02-23T09:51:00.000-05:002009-02-23T09:51:00.000-05:00I think you should get off those psychotic drugs. ...I think you should get off those psychotic drugs. Maybe go the route of Scientology.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-8998603937453302072009-02-23T09:36:00.000-05:002009-02-23T09:36:00.000-05:00Hey chica,Hang in there !!! it's definitely NO...Hey chica,<BR/><BR/>Hang in there !!! it's definitely NOT any fun and I am glad there are people like you out there who are honest about it. I also have heard stories of women TEACHING a SPIN CLASS at 8 months pregnant, so maybe you can find a good middle ground to help get the stress out. I just got off the pill & I'm already feeling 2 shades from crazy so i can only imagine what lies in store for us.<BR/><BR/>Make sure when you have a sane moment to both thank your husband and also be proud of yourself. This is HARD and no one ever admits that.<BR/><BR/>big hugs for you.<BR/>aAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-25631700633018111002009-02-23T08:31:00.000-05:002009-02-23T08:31:00.000-05:00Both of my sisters had similar feelings/reactions ...Both of my sisters had similar feelings/reactions when they were pregnant so I second, third, fourth and fifth what everyone else has said - you aren't an asshole. Who is to say how you should or shouldn't react to such a momentous change in your life? I can't even imagine how hard it must be to grasp it all. <BR/><BR/>You are absolutely the right person for this job; you (and Nick) will be tremendous parents <I>because</I> you are facing these hard questions head-on. Asking them doesn't mean anything other than you have questions...and who wouldn't? You are my hero...keep the faith! =-)Ryanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06535463704571035144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-79193419613574507852009-02-23T07:55:00.000-05:002009-02-23T07:55:00.000-05:00I used to have a maternity T-shirt with a picture ...I used to have a maternity T-shirt with a picture of a pregnant cat sticking out her tongue that said, "I'm up and dressed. What more do you want?"<BR/><BR/>Some pregnant days (and, not to scare you, some new mommy days) getting out of bed and getting dressed is the most you should expect of yourself.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. Ride out the crazy. You can do this.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10780908199604484569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-9700191632666236952009-02-22T23:37:00.000-05:002009-02-22T23:37:00.000-05:00You read my blog. You know that the roller coaster...You read my blog. You know that the roller coaster ride is just beginning. Never feel bad for how you're feeling.<BR/><BR/>P.S. The highs balance out the lows. Trust me. You can do this. If I can do this, anyone can do this.lisahgoldenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158660223296807317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-38950345744056987952009-02-22T22:32:00.000-05:002009-02-22T22:32:00.000-05:00I am SO SORRY you're feeling like this and can abs...I am SO SORRY you're feeling like this and can absolutely relate to the delicate tip-toeing of the normal line. Which, in a completely selfish way, makes me think I should never, ever, EVER have a baby.nicole antoinettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01867096106743131289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-37916760706988307232009-02-22T18:33:00.000-05:002009-02-22T18:33:00.000-05:00For what it's worth: A big part of why I read ...For what it's worth: <BR/><BR/>A big part of why I read this blog and some other blogs is because I'm kind of in the generation below you, in the period of time before I want things like marriage & babies to matter. I read out of extreme interest into seeing what types of futures lay ahead. I don't think you're whiny at all--and even if you are, I think that's nice to know. Because it's a nice reminder that as you get older, these struggles don't just magically go away, and that they continue to be a part of you. I love your blog because it's honest(I think) and an honest snapshot. Don't let that anonymous commenter start affecting that.Early Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09764730072960869255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-34366692402144758002009-02-22T17:53:00.000-05:002009-02-22T17:53:00.000-05:00Oh, to add to my comment above, this recent post s...Oh, to add to my comment above, this recent post should help!<BR/>http://shewalks.blogspot.com/2009/02/and-then-i-cried-over-sad-mop.htmlBeach Bumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12240402370974755543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-31341356234515500432009-02-22T17:51:00.000-05:002009-02-22T17:51:00.000-05:00I know I get the crazies every now and then and I ...I know I get the crazies every now and then and I (thankfully) don't have pregnancy hormones to blame. Just think that this is all temporary. And totally worth it in the end!<BR/><BR/>Another blogger I read is also pregnant and you might want to read her stuff too, if it helps: http://shewalks.blogspot.com/Beach Bumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12240402370974755543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-40733258378598097972009-02-22T15:41:00.000-05:002009-02-22T15:41:00.000-05:00I nominated you for the 'Your Blog is Fabulous Awa...I nominated you for the 'Your Blog is Fabulous Award'. You are fabulous!!!! Stop by and check it out!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-9558769985885022922009-02-22T12:57:00.000-05:002009-02-22T12:57:00.000-05:00I have zero experience in the pregnancy department...I have zero experience in the pregnancy department (and thank fuck for that) but I have a lifetime of experience in the crazy department. What works for one doesn't necessarily work for another, but I will say that sleep is key. Sleep as much as you can. And cry. Cry at whatever you want to. Not crying because it's silly (oh hey - yesterday I cried about my puppy's toenails) will not make you feel better. If you want to cry, it's worth crying about. Period.Hillaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10602816507915795709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-81002117141308589432009-02-22T10:04:00.000-05:002009-02-22T10:04:00.000-05:00LiLu - Thank you, sweetie. I am totally waiting fo...LiLu - Thank you, sweetie. I am totally waiting for the better easier part...until, yeah, I have to push the thing out. Which is a big drama trauma terrifying thing in itself. Big hugs to you.<BR/><BR/>Alex - I don't know if it's brave, but for me it's always cathartic. It feels easier, actually, than keeping it in. And people are amazing. Kind and amazing.<BR/><BR/>You totally made me laugh. If you don't blog about the step-parental setup (and I hope you do) would you please let me know how it went?<BR/><BR/>Paula - Thanks for the nice input. I absolutely hate the lack of control. Hate it. And I'm not a big control freak, in that I don't need to control situations or other people - but I DO need to feel like I have control over myself. UGH!<BR/><BR/>Sarah - Thank you. And stock in Kleenex is not a bad idea. :)<BR/><BR/>J. - Yah, I know. I've read Dooce's archives and it's so very true. I will.<BR/><BR/>kate.d. - Thank you, my sweet.<BR/><BR/>Phoenix Berries - Hearing that I'm not totally aberrant ALWAYS helps. And thank you for the suggestions. The Amazon Chocolate, for one, sounds delicious.Lemon Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-66008220128804407262009-02-21T22:16:00.000-05:002009-02-21T22:16:00.000-05:00This won't help much, but you're normal for this s...This won't help much, but you're normal for this stage of pregnancy. I don't think I left the house unless forced for the first four months of pregnancy. Then there's this golden age of happy hormone balance. Then you feel like crap, then there's a baby - yay. <BR/><BR/>Stool softeners and Haagen Dazs Amazon Chocolate might make your life easier, btw (helping you deal with your literal and emotional sh*t).Phoenix Berrieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15326092800551901196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-46274906146090338972009-02-21T20:52:00.000-05:002009-02-21T20:52:00.000-05:00poor lisa - just wanted to say i'm thinkin of you!...poor lisa - just wanted to say i'm thinkin of you! xoxokate.d.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09967162934828397188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-10116751474704398302009-02-21T19:22:00.000-05:002009-02-21T19:22:00.000-05:00Not being a mom, I would just say, stay aware of w...Not being a mom, I would just say, stay aware of what you're feeling and seek professional advice if you need to. Hormones can be really evil, as Dooce and a couple of friends of mine can testify. Do what you need to take care of yourself and your little one.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07490109332475074631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-27944765711435288512009-02-21T18:26:00.000-05:002009-02-21T18:26:00.000-05:00You're not an asshole for admitting what most wome...You're not an asshole for admitting what most women probably feel! Hang in there, and maybe buy stock in Kleenex. Many hugs, and I hope the days get brighter and easier for you.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17579490091053246362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-44478661087708891412009-02-21T17:36:00.000-05:002009-02-21T17:36:00.000-05:00Don't feel like an asshole, you're entitled to fee...Don't feel like an asshole, you're entitled to feel this way!I don't think there can be many feelings worse than not having control over your own body. It must utterly suck!!! Moan about it all you want - this is your space to do so! I was a bit behind on my reading this week re: that nasty comment you got, which is why I never commented on it, but I think you are entitled to feel the way you do. It'll all be worth it in the end, but obviously at the moment it's just a waiting - and growing - game and I can't imagine myself being any better in this situation!Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04425977546505490830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-16716456771956855142009-02-21T17:23:00.001-05:002009-02-21T17:23:00.001-05:00I have no experience with pregnancy, Lisa. I do, ...I have no experience with pregnancy, Lisa. I do, however, have experience with crying over your keyboard while you type, and I agree with the commenter who said that you were brave for sharing your crazies with strangers online. It's super cool that you can ask this community for help and they come pouring out with love for you. <BR/><BR/>You can do it! You know you can, because you're a smart, wise, funny woman, and you can do anything you set your mind to.<BR/><BR/>If it makes you feel any better, I'm off to meet a strange man my step-mom was trying to set me up with. Oh, and he's bringing a date, in case the step-parental attempted set-up weren't awkward enough...Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00893347878238444805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-26017265728327080472009-02-21T17:23:00.000-05:002009-02-21T17:23:00.000-05:00Aw, lovely... you make my heart hurt! I want all t...Aw, lovely... you make my heart hurt! I want all those things for you too. Obviously I can't speak from experience... but it does seem like from the blogs I've read of women who went through pregnancy, it starts out the way you're feeling now, and then one day you just wake up and... it's better. You feel better, happier, clearer. And the rest is easier, until, well, you know, you actually have to push the thing out. I hope this is the case for you as well, and that you feel better soon. Hugs and smooches.rachaelgkinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18002691394373545956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-86837913140583220842009-02-21T17:02:00.000-05:002009-02-21T17:02:00.000-05:00Tej - Oh, lovey, you did get kind of ankle swollen...Tej - Oh, lovey, you did get kind of ankle swollen and a wee bit waddly, but it wasn't apparent to me till much later - toward the end. And you were still really pretty and a lot more graceful about all of this than I am.<BR/><BR/>Carrie - THANK YOU a million times for saying this. Yes! This is exactly it. I'm not type A but I HATE being this out of control. I never have full control over my emotions, but my body? I am used to having a lot of control over how it looks and feels, and that's really, really important to me and my sense of order in the world. And yes, you nailed it - I absolutely hate not knowing what is going to happen, if I'll like it, how I'll feel, if I'll get my body back, etc. And it is abstract enough that it's hard to feel like there's any end in sight or concrete point to this, so feeling the baby will definitely help. You made me feel so much better saying all this, you really, really did.<BR/><BR/>Dagny - Oh, hugs to you. I did just get an email from a pregnant woman saying that this post and these comments made her feel better, which totally made me feel better. It's so good to not feel alone.<BR/><BR/>JoLee - Oh, dear. I've had those weeks - and usually chalked it up to PMS. Although sometimes it's winter, or the phase of the moon, or too much life stress...Hang in there.<BR/><BR/>A.S. - I LOVE the commenters too. All of you always have thoughtful, interesting things to say, and I so appreciate the support.<BR/><BR/>Cheryl S. - Yah, that is actually a good thing to keep in mind, because I am prone to depression and it is hard to sort out where the OK normal line is and where I cross it in this state.<BR/><BR/>As for the results, yes, absolutely we'll find out, and sure, I'll share. And good advice on the names, considering how much less personal things can piss me off right now.<BR/><BR/>Soph - Oh, god, thanks for this. You DID really make me laugh, imagining my ass on a dartboard. And I know - all those things our parents did, and we all did turn out normal, or anyway healthy, if not textbook "normal" :).<BR/><BR/>I hope you have so much fun tonight. I will totally living vicariously through you. The curling, not so appealing, but man would I love to be haning out with you cheerleading and holding down the bar. Love and hugs to you.<BR/><BR/>LJ - You made me laugh as well. I hope so. I'm supposed to be taking it easy today post-amnio, but tomorrow, I will definitely get out for some exercise in the sunshine somewhere in "the nature" :).Lemon Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-10361736369187768222009-02-21T16:29:00.000-05:002009-02-21T16:29:00.000-05:00oh, sweetie. You are most definitely the right pe...oh, sweetie. You are most definitely the right person for this job if you can compose the following: "I suppose on the upside, I have a lot of practice with crying. So even sobbing, I can make a kick-ass cappuccino."<BR/><BR/>my advice today or tomorrow is for you to go for a walk somewhere pretty (maryland side of great falls perhaps), even if it is "the nature"LJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11863772247445220124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-62316024472336848532009-02-21T16:18:00.000-05:002009-02-21T16:18:00.000-05:00I had volleyball with my friend Harsha on wednesda...I had volleyball with my friend Harsha on wednesday and she was talking about how all women have a bit of crazy in them, and then when you're pregnant, that it multiplies by a billion. now, she's not a crier, and she almost lost it in a store when her husband wouldn't allow her to buy $5000 worth of baby furniture. She said she was a basket case throughout the entire pregnancy, she had no clue what was going on, and everything seemed unreasonable, overwhelming and she wasn't sure she could do it. To read your email today, I feel for you, my friend. Have a good cry, then cry again if need be. Maybe a massage, some cuddling? a lukewarm bath? a glass or many of wine? (they baby will be fine, sheesh...) your favorite food?<BR/><BR/>Don't follow anyone else's "rules".<BR/>it's bullshit. Eat sushi, have a guinness, maybe not a heavy jog, but a light jog?<BR/><BR/>I find it amazing that we are alive considering our parents generation, they drank, they smoked, they did everything that you're not supposed to do, and hey, we turned out normal, well, maybe not "normal", but you know what I mean... :-)<BR/><BR/>I think your belly's HOT! Have you thought of putting a picture of your ass on a dartboard? HA! now that I've made you laugh, I need to go get ready for a Bonspiel, yes, a curling party where guys/gals freeze their butts/nuts off, then come in to the bar to drink. I don't curl, I'm strictly a cheerleading hold down the bar girl. I'll have many in your honour tonight, big giant hugs, to you, love sophSophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16883556869504380904noreply@blogger.com