tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post3759309664246698710..comments2024-03-15T14:47:21.170-04:00Comments on Lemon Gloria: If I could buy my reasoning I'd pay to lose Lemon Gloriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-36595680974679095182013-10-06T11:02:32.082-04:002013-10-06T11:02:32.082-04:00I wonder if it's worse now that you don't ...I wonder if it's worse now that you don't have a commute to transition between work and home lives, and have some blissful solitude. You might consider scheduling some time like that on the regular, just so you don't feel like screaming stfu! at nick. Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12302608850210625688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-38566197228527346472013-09-27T17:59:51.930-04:002013-09-27T17:59:51.930-04:00I'm not a talker, so I totally get you. I just...I'm not a talker, so I totally get you. I just told the Husband one day I need him to keep quiet for an hour, completely silently silent or I would have to physically hurt him and I didn't want to do that. He was shocked (and quiet) and then just told me to let him know, possibly less emphatically, next time and he'd just go talk to himself elsewhere. The Bonny Bardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06164325917061110813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-5587878165061469972013-09-26T19:37:27.305-04:002013-09-26T19:37:27.305-04:00If you figure this out, please share. This is, no ...If you figure this out, please share. This is, no joke, one of the biggest things that causes fights between my (chatty) husband and my (not so chatty) self. I have zero idea how to deal with it.<br /><br />Plus, he likes to just come into a room and *start talking* even if I'm in the middle of doing something (reading, mostly) & then gets mad when I'm not entirely engaged right away. Which is its own special fun. Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17430540263901865519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-18892517902439061802013-09-26T16:53:11.449-04:002013-09-26T16:53:11.449-04:00My husband and I have actually said to one another...My husband and I have actually said to one another (at different times) If it's not an emergency, it's no talking time. It's rarely used, but when it is, we respect it til whoever invoked it talks again. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-14887442440229857102013-09-26T12:22:41.289-04:002013-09-26T12:22:41.289-04:00My BF and I have an understanding, all we have to ...My BF and I have an understanding, all we have to say to the other person is that "I need my bubble", that way he knows I'm not being cranky "at him" and that it has nothing to do with him, I just need a little space.<br /><br />This also makes sure that when I am mad at him and don't mention the bubble, he knows and doesn't take it as needing my space lolHeadstrong Damselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17644314414555891927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-74586701486233399642013-09-26T10:25:24.686-04:002013-09-26T10:25:24.686-04:00Yes! Once I've had some quiet time, I'm ha...Yes! Once I've had some quiet time, I'm happy to engage. But when I need it and don't get it, I'm a harpy!Lemon Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-28718660294652022502013-09-26T10:24:46.383-04:002013-09-26T10:24:46.383-04:00Yes! Just stop talking! I love you please stop tal...Yes! Just stop talking! I love you please stop talking!Lemon Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-62043433676904038982013-09-26T10:24:22.411-04:002013-09-26T10:24:22.411-04:00I am actually giggling at the vision of G being bl...I am actually giggling at the vision of G being blabby! He's a good conversationalist, but the idea of him chatting away incessantly is hard to imagine! But I think being clear on what you need and that setting up some parameters is smart.Lemon Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-43632071713062327132013-09-26T10:23:03.803-04:002013-09-26T10:23:03.803-04:00Lots of evenings I want to talk to him once the ho...Lots of evenings I want to talk to him once the house gets quiet, because we just don't have enough time together. But when I don't want to talk, when I want to be in my own head, I REALLY don't want to engage.Lemon Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280085058516960260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-92105984611020128992013-09-26T09:23:14.681-04:002013-09-26T09:23:14.681-04:00i had to explain this to my husband. it's now ...i had to explain this to my husband. it's now scheduled, no joke. i get one hour (at minimum) where he will just let me be without speaking. honestly, it's ok to ask for this time and he likes talking to me much more after i've had this moment.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14004401180892773190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-13768099762410808772013-09-26T03:18:29.694-04:002013-09-26T03:18:29.694-04:00OH yes! My hubs is the chatty one, and while I lov...OH yes! My hubs is the chatty one, and while I love him dearly, sometimes I'm just like, "STFU, whydontcha!"J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07490109332475074631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-66276777398401409962013-09-26T01:47:44.678-04:002013-09-26T01:47:44.678-04:00That used to be me and Gerardo, but with a role re...That used to be me and Gerardo, but with a role reversal with me as the talker. Now we're pretty much even about not wanting to blabber at each other (in addition to the two kids, on my side that might also be a function of being a therapist and having to talk and listen all day at work). But what I do, whether with the kids or Ger (on those rare moments when he gets blabby) is just say "Mommy is having quiet time. I need X amount of no talking. LOve you dearly, but I am not available right now!"K.L.Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14643261135942968406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2117136912052729666.post-6781140318849908072013-09-25T23:52:31.903-04:002013-09-25T23:52:31.903-04:00I SO hear you on this. And then I feel like an as...I SO hear you on this. And then I feel like an ass when I don't want to talk to my husband. I feel like I listen to people talk all day at work, and I'd just really like some quiet at the end of my day.Tiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01470163614190777624noreply@blogger.com