Neurodivergence, or: We always hang in a Buffalo Stance/We do the dive every time we dance

OK, so, I know you're not supposed to diagnose yourself using social media.

And this is not exactly what I've done.

But I've discovered that one of the best things about memes is that they've helped me learn about my neurodivergence, and they've shown me I'm not alone.

I was diagnosed with ADHD a couple years ago. It was a huge relief. I've been very open about this and written about it a little.

This diagnoses explained so many things about me that were either pieces of me that frustrated me and made me insecure, or were things that made me feel like I was kinda quirky, and if you appreciated quirky, you might appreciate me extra.

Or not. Because it works both ways.

There were things I'd try to hide, because for a long time I wanted to seem normal. Ha. 

And there were lots of things I did that I didn't think about one way or another until someone pointed them out to me.

Now, there are numerous memes about autism and ADHD, and it seems like they share commonalities and maybe even significant overlap. I don't know anything about autism. But a lot of these memes resonate with me.

I don't assume that just because my brain works in a particular way means that someone else's brain works the same way.

But ooh, it's nice to learn that those similar-brain-working-people are out there!

I've delightedly learned that I'm not alone.

There are other people in the world who will choose a song and play it on repeat 372 times. There are people who will go back to the beginning of the song if they dissociated and missed part of it.

I honestly didn't know other people did that.

I also didn't know that other people just checked out for a while and then dropped back in and realized they'd missed a significant part of the song. Or the conversation. Or the lesson.

Whatever might be going on, that continued to go on while my brain went myriad other places. Or not really anywhere, but not here.

So sometimes I learn that all along, I've been approaching things in the same manner as other neurodivergent humans.

And then I sometimes I learn I take a neurodivergent approach from someone telling me not to do what they assume I do, because it's (apparently) what most people do.

Like, my yoga teacher is always making daily tasks into opportunities for strengthening or stretching.

So the other day he was giving us examples like when you soap yourself in the shower, do forward fold. When you're drying off, raise your straight leg up and put your foot on the sink, so you get that strengthening and stretch.

And so on.

He said not to just stand at the sink when you brush your teeth. He, personally, holds horse stance.

Use all the small opportunities.

But I was like, who stands at the sink when they brush their teeth?

(Do you?)

When I brush my teeth, I'm always wandering around trying to do also something else. Like remove or put on my socks with the other hand. Or pull on or take off my pants. Or open a jar.

I  have successfully removed my tee shirt while brushing my teeth, but it's a big hassle and the chances of getting toothpaste on your shirt are high.

The chances of flinging your electric toothbrush through the head hole and across the room are also high.

So it's really not worth it.

But I've always tasked my self with something hard to do one-handed. I guess most things are hard to do one-handed. 

This is never a time-saver, in case you're wondering.

I'm not offering up helpful tips or tricks.

No. 

It's more like it never occurred to me to stand at the sink. Why would I just stand at the sink when I can wander and even mildly complicate my life?

Who, I wondered, stands at the sink the whole time?

My husband. 

My husband stands at the sink the entire time he's brushing his teeth.

He's surely done this throughout our 16 years of marriage, because he's done this every morning and night that I've observed in the last couple weeks.

But I've never noticed, because I'm busy not successfully accomplishing tasks one handed in the next room.

Me, I'm now aiming for horse stance.

(Also, this is really the only way to eat raspberries.)