I cull contacts from my phone regularly.
If we haven't talked in a while, and I don't have a particular inclination to call, I'll probably delete the person. If I met you ages ago and we thought it was a great idea to exchange numbers, and then neither of us ever called, I'll delete. Even though you can jump to a particular letter, I just don't like having to scroll through too many names.
And I delete men from my phone with alarming alacrity.
You piss me off. Delete. You hurt my feelings. Delete. You disappoint me. Delete.
A good friend of mine has always said this is foolish, that I want to be able to know who is calling. She, in fact, was with me when I got a call from a number I'd just deleted. A guy I'd lightly dated for a couple months. Things got weird, and then it ended.
And I sent a very nice email wrapping things up. Goodbye. And then I deleted him from my phone. Goodbye.
And then, very next morning, as I was leaving Tryst I got a call from a 202 number. I showed it to her. "Anyone we know?" She shook her head.
I answered with a, "Hello?" in the tone of voice you use when you have no idea who is calling. And then I looked at her and said, "Oh, hi! Greg!" She nearly fell over laughing. With an "I told you so!" look.
I've also had to put guys back in - multiple times, in fact. First enough calls from the cell phone and I realize it behooves me to be able to identify the number. So I program that back in. And then the office phone. And then home phone. And I'm back to having all their numbers.
Which may, down the road, get deleted in one fell swoop. Delete contact? Absolutely.
It's obviously not an act of ambivalence. If you didn't care if you saw their name as you scroll through numbers, you'd just leave it. It's odd that it feels like a small victory, in some way. Perhaps it's slightly malicious. Or petulant. Or something in that direction. I realize this.
But still, there's something very satisfying about it. Delete contact? Yes. You might not know it, but I'm done. Goodbye.
Rational? Not necessarily. But how often is that one of my grand claims?