Someone asked me recently if I was hugely disappointed that I had a C-section rather than a vaginal birth.
I've been told I shouldn't feel bad about it, just because it didn't go the way I planned. I had a healthy baby, and that's all that matters.
And quite frankly, I believe this.
I didn't get derailed because my birth scenario didn't play out the way I'd wanted. It wasn't that. But I was very upset about it at the time, and maybe I did feel cheated of a birth experience.
I was so immensely upset when they told me. Going into it, there was no way I was having a C-section.
And then, then I had to have one.
But by this point, it's not really about the birth for me, but about the recovery.
I'm not disappointed, and I don't feel cheated, but I do still dearly wish I hadn't had to have one.
Because I don't know about you, but I seem to use my stomach muscles a hell of a lot more than I use my vagina.
Love the title for this post.
ReplyDeleteThough I hope you don't call Jordan in a few years and leave him a message about your abdominal vs. vaginal muscles.
On the other side... I've heard some pretty awful things about episiotomies.
ReplyDeleteKeeping my fingers crossed that you're 100% soon!
aaaand my ovaries have stopped humming. Thanks, lady!
ReplyDeletetotally understand. when i was told i'd have to have a c with marion midway through my pregnancy, i went into shock for a week. i just didn't expect it; it wasn't on my radar.
ReplyDeletein the end it all worked out. she was healthy and it wasn't as bad as i expected. but i would have rather been able to do it the normal way :)
My friend just had a forcep birth with a 4th degree tear.
ReplyDeleteWhat I am saying is I think moms are heros.
Anonymous - I love Ben Folds! And no, I won't be doing that.
ReplyDeleteDagny - Yes, absolutely, so have I. It's a very scary place for cutting and tearing.
I'm pretty close, thanks!
Hillary - Then my work is done here.
meghan - Agree - it was totally not on my radar. And I do believe healhy baby is what counts.
Lemmonex - Oh, my God. That makes me so clenchy.
Me, too on the nightmare forcep birth with layers of stitches. Ouch. Believe it or not, I remember begging for a c-section! Sure, you want a healthy baby and that's all the matters. But I remember being jealous as hell of those births that go as planned. Of course, now I'm so much more mature about it. :)
ReplyDeleteYeah, the tearing and ripping and stretching of the vagina made a C section sound pretty good to me. I figured if I could heal from a ruptured apendix, a C section couldn't be that much worse.
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ReplyDeleteHilarity. I guess, when all is said and done, the vagina does get less action that the stomach muscles.... ;)
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