We're girding our loins to head up to New Jersey for Thanksgiving.
Yesterday Nick said, "Wouldn't it be nice if we just stayed here and had a relaxing holiday?"
I got all hopeful. "We could." I said it calmly, so as not to sound like I was jumping up and down in my chair at the possibility.
"No, we have to go. Jordan needs to see his grandparents. They need to see him. And he should get to know his cousins."
All of these things are true. Plus, you're supposed to spend the holiday with family. It's not that I'm not thankful to have family. Of course I am. It's just so...effortful. And exhausting.
You fight 95 traffic to get there...and then it's not relaxing once you're there. Nick gets tense and dickish beforehand. I get tense and bitchy.
Dickish and bitchy do not a happy couple make.
Nick and I both drink way too much while we're there. If we lived in the same town as his family, we'd be alcoholics for sure.
And I don't wish Nick were an orphan, at least not most of the time. But it would be nice if he were an only child. Or maybe only had a younger sister.
Thanksgiving has never been my favorite holiday anyway. I'd skip it altogether if I could.
Christmas, Christmas I love. I love the lights and colors and the preparation of treats and the tree and just everything.
But Thanksgiving always seems like it's all about food. It's all about the stress of preparing and cleaning up a gargantuan meal.
You go around the table and say what you're thankful for, but that's really the only focus on thanks.
Then you eat and eat and eat until you're stuffed. And then you eat some more. And the kids get all jacked up on sugar and things devolve into chaos and you wish you could go home but you can't because you're at someone else's house and so you just keep drinking until finally it's time to go to bed.
And then you wake up hung over and, oh fuck, you have a kid to take care of and why did you drink so much? Oh. Right. And you probably can't crack a beer before noon without people looking askance at you. Crap.
Wow. I didn't exactly know where I was going when I started this. And there you have it.
But there's always the hope that it could be really fun. And also, world peace.
In other words, Happy Thanksgiving, all!