If I am close to you, I am remarkably share-y. What's mine is yours, pretty much. But I think everyone has their lines.
I haven't shared gum since high school, and now the idea makes me throw up a little in my mouth, but I'm fairly cavalier about germs. I use the 5- or even 10-second rule for things that fall on the floor. I have bought food from street vendors in all kinds of places. The kinds of places where you are likely to wind up with parasites.
On a side bar, my current boss is a serious germaphobe. She talks about it very candidly. She bought a new fridge because she couldn't stand the idea that the previous owners of their house had stuck their heads in the fridge at some point.
When she says things like this, I like to mention that by contrast, I grew up doing things like licking the walls in Bangladesh. Which draws a visceral reaction every time.
So anyway, the lines you draw may be arbitrary, but they're still your lines.
I reached toward the toothbrush holder for my toothbrush the other morning and it wasn't there. Because it was in Nick's mouth.
He'd left his in the shower, and as we were in a hurry, he'd grabbed the one in the holder. Which was mine.
And I did a little squirmy icky dance and got all, "That's mine! MY toothbrush!"
The sharing of a toothbrush is something I'm rather opposed to and, it turns out, something Nick is fairly casual about.
His argument is that we could not be closer, and that toothbrush sharing between us is not actually all that intimate in comparison to so many other things.
My take, however, is that nothing compares to scraping bacteria off your teeth. And my toothbrush is mine, and his is his. And the twain shouldn't really overlap.
I asked my friends in the Quangle (which is next to the Quad). What if their boyfriend or husband used their toothbrush? They were horr-i-fied.
One said she'd throw the toothbrush out. Another said she'd probably use it again but only after running it under very hot water. The third wasn't sure between the two.
Bob, who overheard the entire exchange, was more interested in the shower aspect of the entire thing. I tried to get him back on the toothbrush sharing, to get a guy's perspective, but that wasn't the part that got him.
He was all, "Why? Why would you do it in the shower?"