So Betty and I spent a chunk of Mother's Day at Babies R Us. Which I firmly believe to be one of the most overwhelming, dreadful places in the universe.
We left exhausted.
Maude's mom is very kindly going to throw a shower for me, and so, before invitations are sent, I need to register. This is all going to happen soonsoon, and Betty was up for going yesterday, so we did.
Plus on Friday one of my colleagues was all, "What do you mean you haven't already ordered your crib and matching furniture and don't you know you need to do that 12 weeks in advance and oh, honey, have you really not done anything about registering?"
I get all deer in headlights in that kind of situation. I just shook my head no. And thought, oh, clearly I'm the most disorganized pre-mother on this planet and crap do I need to get on the ball.
I slunk back to my desk feeling all bad about myself.
And then I remembered - I don't even want a fucking matching bedroom set! For the boy or myself or anywhere!
Really, I just need, well, what I need. But how to figure that out?
So back to Babies R Us.
If you've never been in one of these places, it's just this big, enormous, huge (yes, redundancies abound) store filled with scads and scads of baby stuff. There are 54 different kinds of everything. You cannot actually need one of each of these.
So I'd look to my mother. And Betty kept shrugging, saying, "Well, when you were a baby in India, we had a crib - the only crib we could get, and cloth diapers, and some clothes."
So she has no idea either.
And so you wander, zombie-like, from aisle to aisle.
And you're all, do we need this? I don't know, what do you think? Maybe. Sure. So, then, what kind? How many?
We were like this in aisle after aisle after aisle.
I want a BabyBjorn, that I know. But then they have four different kinds. Which one of those do I want? Dunno.
Same with diaper bags.
Same with strollers.
And practically everything.
It was a total relief when we happened across bedding. Sheets? Sure, we need sheets! Straightforward! Finally!
Tejal gave me a copy of Baby Bargains, and I've read a couple sections. But it's the kind of thing that overwhelms me as well. So much information. And I forgot to bring it yesterday.
So we made some choices, figuring everything can be changed, and I can add whatever online.
And then we fled.
Then this morning I realized that I have a spectacular resource available!
A number of you have had babies. You know what you liked, what you loved, what worked, what was just a total waste of money.
So what I was hoping was that you'd be willing to weigh in on things you think are absolutely essential, and brands that you've loved, and features of things you've loved. And what you think is absolutely pointless.
And things of that nature. And any other thoughts you feel like sharing.
If you would be so kind, I would greatly appreciate it.