Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Oh, you guys

I have stories for you.

I have stories about blue hydrangeas and funeral homes and talking the Lutherans into agreeing to host my dad's memorial service this Friday. I have thoughts about anger and anguish and so many emotions mixed together, things that currently come out in sobs or vitriolic torrents.

It would be so much more constructive to write them down. I know it would.

Plus, I'm ashamed to say I owe a number of return emails and thank you cards.

I just haven't had time.

Life has been so hectic. On top of everything, Nick and I moved out of his place this weekend. We have a month of stuff in storage, of limbo of sorts, and then we close on our new house.

You could say there is a little too much going on.

I miss all of you. I miss reading your blogs and knowing what's going on in your lives. I owe so many thank yous.

I am looking forward to a return to normalcy, if one can call my regular life that. Or at any rate, a return to routine.

Right now, I have a slide show to put together, and music to compile, and I need to figure out what I'm saying on Friday.

I really want to talk, but it also makes me nervous. I'm not sure what to say. I want it to be good and I want it to be right, and I just don't know what that might be.

But the stories, I do have them.

And I do miss you.


  1. We miss you too!! Stay well, and hugs to you and your family.

  2. My goodness, woman! Don't worry about us! We miss you and will be waiting to hear the stories, funny, sad or otherwise, when you get back. Take care of yourself and that baby. Lots of love to Betty.

  3. We miss you too! Hang in there and take things one step at a time. We'll be here when you get back!

  4. I think that anything you say will be right. You love him. That's enough.

    Take care of yourself (and the Boy!)

  5. We miss you but we will be here. Take care of you and the bambino...

  6. Take care of the craziness and all that is going on, and we'll be here when your routine settles down again. Take care of yourself and the baby.

  7. We miss you too dear! We are also looking forward to a return to normalcy for you. You deserve a little normalcy!
    (And omg, congratulations on finding the house! Woo!)

  8. My close friends and I have a "no thank you notes" policy for situations like this. You've got enough shit to deal with without having to worry about satisfying Emily Post's requirements.

    Take care of yourself, and we'll look forward to hearing the stories when you're ready to tell them. xoxo

  9. Take all the time that you need, we'll be here when you get back.

  10. We miss you too - and will welcome you back excitedly when you're ready to come back. I second Wendy's no-notes policy for these situations. The people who are doing things, already know that they're thanked.


  11. We (I?) miss you, too.

    Take all the time you need for you and we'll be here waiting for you when you return.

  12. At the risk of sounding like a broken record - we miss you too!

    Take care.


  13. and here is a second broken record - you are missed as well! take some time to breathe this week.

  14. and here is a second broken record - you are missed as well! take some time to breathe this week.

  15. Take whatever time you need - we're still sending warm thoughts and hugs. The service will be beautiful - I just know it.

  16. Wow - you have a TON going on! I miss you too, but I'll be here when you get back! Hang in there and big hugs to you!!

  17. We miss you like crazy, but you need to take care of yourself. Good luck on the moving and just take it day by day.

    I'll be thinking about y'all!

  18. Hi Lisa,
    We'll wait for you! Take your time and try not to feel guilty about Thank You cards and such. People really do understand. The last thing your friends and family want to do is heap a guilt trip on you. You'll do fine Friday. I'm betting on it and praying for it. Just hang in there, you'll come up for air and we'll all still be here. Until then, peace be with you,
    Lynn in ND

  19. Shush. No feeling guilty. Everyone who loves you TOTALLY understands. HUGE HUGS!

  20. Delurking - I found you through Hillary.

    I've been reading over the past few weeks and you've been incredible resilient and strong and encouraging. The grace with which you seem to be handling everything is incredible.

    Speaking in honour of a loved one is never easy, but it does just that - it honours them and I'm sure whatever you say will do that.

  21. And we? We will wait patiently while you put your life back together.

    Just don't apologize for it anymore.


  22. I know you'll know exactly what to say and it will come out just how it's meant to. I know we'd all love to read it as well given how much your words resonate with so many, especially on all the most important of topics - love and loss being two very big ones. I'm definitely with Wendy - this is a time to simply dwell in the comfort of friends and family and let normal responsibilities go for the sake of taking care of yourself and those closest to you. Everyone understands!

  23. you have more on your plate right now than any other person I know. I don't know how you do it but it's admirable.

    and like the song says, we'll be right here waiting for you... but not in that creepy stalker kind of way.

  24. Yeah we miss you too Lisa, but right now its all about you ok? We will be here when you get back dont worry. :)

  25. Good luck with everything. I continue to send thoughts of strength to you and Betty. Also, based on the writing I have read here, your talk will end up moving, loving, sad, and funny. I'm sure, afterwards, everyone will be glad they heard it.

    My best thoughts are with you.

  26. I agree with the no thank you note policy. Completely unnecessary and not at all expected.

    I hope you're doing okay. We miss you, too, but we'll be here when you are ready. xo

  27. Good Morning Lisa,
    I woke up thinking about your day ahead. I lit a nice candle in honor of your dad. Good vibes and thoughts going out to you & yours today from sunny North Dakota.


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