Yesterday I met up with Tejal to treat her to belated birthday drinks.
We went to the bar/restaurant in our building. It's nice but totally easy comfortable. We treat it as our living room - most likely because we used to spend way too much time there.
We arrived at the same time, and complimented each other with "You look great!"s.
To which I responded, "I wore my new top and put on makeup and perfume for you!"
And she replied, "I freshened my makeup and put on heels for you!"
Not because either of us would judge the other, but because it was a little occasion. And not because we might impress other patrons. I mean, it was 3:30 in the afternoon, the place was nearly empty, and anyway, I had Big J and a diaper bag with me.
I started thinking about this later, though. If I were single, would I have dressed differently? Would I have given thought to men I might meet while we were out?
And on the whole, do I dress for women or men?
I know this is not an original question.
Women often contend they dress for other women. Men tend to be sceptical of this. I don't know that most men would even consider the question for themselves. If any men are reading, I'd be interested to hear.
I think if I'd given this any thought prior to marriage and baby, I probably would've said that I dress for other women.
I mean, women will notice color and texture and fabulous accessories. Men, on the whole, notice if your ass looks good in those pants. Women compliment you on your shoes. They notice flats just as much as heels.
Have you ever been shoe shopping with a man? And every shoe he suggests has a highhigh heel? No matter what kind of shoe you're looking for? Men are never all, "What cute ballet flats!"
But I don't tend to wear flats. I love the platforms. I love the heels. I contend that this is because I'm short, and I love the height. But do I also like that men like them?
So thinking about it, though, I most likely used to dress for men when I went out. I probably still do, as I tend to wear clothing Nick likes when we're going out.
But I have my own mind and my own taste, and I like wearing funky things - things that women tend to like more than men, and when I'm out and about, I'm not trying to attract men.
In other words, I'm not sure.