Wednesday, September 29, 2010

As long as we both shall live. With perhaps an exception or two. Depending.

"I take it you've gotten well past feeling like a boy with this haircut."

Nick said this as we were making dinner.

"You know," I said, taking a sip of wine, "a friend of mine had this professor in college who had a husband who got a sex change."

Nick got that you're-so-going-to-turn-this-into-a-rabies-conversation-aren't-you kind of look.

He said, "I've had a long day."

"Yeah. So her husband had always felt like he was a woman trapped in a man's body."


"So he had the sex change and became a woman."

He reached for the salt. "Uh huh."

"And they stayed together!"

This gets his attention. True love!

I add, "Isn't that so interesting? It's such a statement about loving the person and their core."

I look at him significantly. I expect him to say something about how he loves me that much. And no matter what, we'd always be together.

He responds, "In other words, his wife became a lesbian."

"It's about love. It's not about gender or sex."

"And then they were both lesbians."

"Whatever. Sure. So would you?"

"Would I what? Sleep with you and another woman?"

"Stay with me? If I became a man?"

"Not a chance. Let's get back to the lesbians."

"Don't you love me?"

"So his wife, the lesbian..."

"Drop it."


  1. And Nick gets his sweet, sweet revenge for every rabies conversation, ever.

    But, would he become a lesbian for you?

  2. Wiping coffee. Off my laptop. Yet again.

  3. I've heard stories like that (the professor) and I just don't get it. Sorry. I guess I'm just not that evolved!

    Nick is too funny!

  4. So, have you gotten over the haircut thing. :-P

  5. Jessica - He likes to do that.

    And I'd leave him in a second if he became a woman. Can you even picture him as a woman? So not my type.

    texpatriate - :)

    cla517 - I think it's amazing, I really do. And I think it's fascinating that it's truly not about sex or gender but about who you love. All that said, I don't think I'd handle a transition like that gracefully.

    VVK - I'm so over it. :)

  6. The male-to-female transition is tough for men over 6' tall...Nick's hands would always give him away even with the hormones ; )

    I love how men always skip ahead to the lesbian's fascinating to them

    For the record, I know the T has attached itself to our LGB train, but it's all very confusing to me too, especially the Professor story. But it is beautiful story about you just love who you love.

  7. Wait. I HAD that professor. Seriously. They had a really nice relationship.

    Not sure what I would do in that situation, but I've seen it work, so . . . that's why my hair is long.

  8. lol men and lesbians, an eternal fascination.

  9. Almost impossible for you to become a man, with a pole being so much harder to build. Digging holes are much easier.

  10. Men and thoughts of women together with women.

    They just can't go anyplace else....


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