I have been thinking about this documentary on dwarfism I saw years ago.
With all my frets, dwarfism has not been among them. But it popped into my mind the first time someone asked if we're going to find out the gender and what I am hoping for.
I know you're supposed to be all, "Either, as long as it's healthy."
So this is what I go ahead and say, even though for me, it's a lie. I mean, yes, healthy is absolutely the most important. And you kind of don't want to admit you're hoping beyond that, in case it's not.
And at this point, we'll get health results and gender all at once. And really, with the things they're looking for, the gender information is the least critical piece.
So in the documentary, the focus of one storyline was on this couple who both had the same kind of dwarfism. The wife was pregnant, and because of their genetic makeup, there were a number of outcomes for the baby.
According to doctors, there was a 50% chance that it would have their kind of dwarfism. There was a 25% chance that the baby would be a regular-sized person. And there was a 25% chance that the genes would match up in a bad way and the fetus would die.
They were hoping for dwarfism.
I get very invested in stories like this. I was really rooting for them.
My then-boyfriend came over at the tail end of the documentary. So I tried to give him the full picture - the chance that their baby would die, the worry that it wouldn't be like them, the. . .
Being a data person, he wasn't into in the human interest details. "Yes, yes, fine. Anyway. What kind of baby did they have?"
I had to think about how to phrase it so that he'd understand the variables.
"A not-dead-dwarf baby."