When Jordan was little, and we couldn't find something, I'd say, "Jordan, where is it?"
I'd shrug my shoulders and put my hands in the air like I just didn't know.
He'd mirror the gesture, looking at me very earnestly. He'd shake his head, and say, "It's SOMEWHERE!"
Which is always true.
Ever since my surgery last September, I've had a checkup with oncology every three months, and with my breast surgeon every six months.
About 10 days ago I had my one-year check with my surgeon.
My last oncology checkup was in September, when I was in the throes of pneumonia, and that's what the oncologist was most concerned about.
I don't have scans, because I have practically no breast tissue. Basically, I get felt up every three months.
Nick took me to the oncology check because I wasn't strong enough to go by myself. Otherwise I'd have gone alone.
I told Nick I didn't need him to come to the appointment with my surgeon, because all the checkups so far have been very routine.
Everything feels fine, you look good, see you next time.
But of course, everything is fine until it isn't.
Because at this check, my surgeon found a lump.
She immediately said she thought it was nothing to be concerned about. "Fat necrosis" was most likely what it was. Very common, not a big deal.
She was all, "I don't want you to get all anxious. This is going to be nothing."
But of course I started crying. I started listing the choices I made, saying I should've made different ones.
No, she said. I did everything I should do.
We were at the downtown building rather than the hospital, and she sent me to the radiologist upstairs to see if they could fit me in, because she could then just run up and take a look.
They don't do breasts on Fridays.
It took me a bit of time to get an appointment. In the meantime, I've googled.
Fat necrosis is common after trauma like surgery. Fat cells die from lack of blood supply. They make a lump.
This makes a lot of sense.
But of course, I've catastrophized. I'm a catastrophizer.
And I work fast.
Way back in my singleness I'd go on first dates and by the time we'd had a glass of wine I'd mentally have married and divorced the guy.
So.
First thing Wendesday morning, I'm going for a scan.
It's either something, or it's nothing.
I mean, it's something.
It's just either something no big deal, tantamount to nothing, or it's a really big deal.
