Monday, February 04, 2008

On the one hand it's fast, but on the other, I've been waiting my entire life

Now, many of you know that I have been dating for longer than many readers of LG have been alive. Or some, anyway. That means a very long time.

Depending on how you look at it, at some point I got really good at it. Alternately, one could say, "Wow, she's needed remedial dating lessons for years!"

So you date along and you date along. There are guys you really like and guys who really like you. Sometimes these things coincide, at least for a period of time. Much of the time they don't, or the amount of time that you both feel the same is ephemeral and eventually painful and disappointing.

What's my point?

It's this. And please bear with me, because the end of this little tale is insanely good.

Eventually you meet a guy you think is really cute, and smart, and ridiculously, goofily, funny. He's not only good to you, he's kind to everyone. He's incredibly polite to cab drivers and wait staff - two of things you look for. He holds doors for people, and he tucks you in the car and closes your door before walking around to his side.

You spend astounding amounts of time together, and it's just so nice. Very quickly, he feels like home. Every Sunday you do the NY Times crossword together, drinking tea and mostly sharing really well - although not every minute. You run together down on the parkway, and it's the first time you've really liked exercising with a guy you are dating.

He introduces you to the Family Guy, which you hate, because dude, there's a woman who sleeps with a dog on the show! I don't care if the dog talks and is really cool, or that it's a cartoon. It's still cartoon bestiality. He's not remotely interested in team sports, and for this you thank your lucky stars. You introduce him to Project Runway, and despite himself, he's really impressed.

And one day, you are making tea in the kitchen, and he catches your eye from the living room. Why? So that you can see him performing his exaggeratedly awkward krump moves for you. Or displaying his breakdancing skills. I don't know about you, but there are few things I find funnier than an enormous white guy pretending to krump. Or breakdance.

And the fact is? He will do these moves, accompanied by humming, in the car as well. Which delights you immensely. It occasionally delights the people stopped at the light next to you.

Things like this make you think, how on earth did I find this person? Who keeps me endlessly entertained? And thinks I'm the best thing since peanut butter ever ever ever?

And, is it possible that all these people who have had so much more faith than I have, and who have said over and over that if it's right, it'll just work, without drama trauma, games, or needless struggles - is it possible they are actually right?

It turns out they are.

On Saturday night, he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him.

And I said, "Yes! Absolutely! Yes!"


  1. Congratulations! I'm thrilled for both of you. Love stories are my favorite.

  2. Congrats is an understatement; I'm just not sure what the actual word should be. Ubercongrats. Or something to that effect.

    One of my favorite people in the world met, dated, was engaged to and then married her now-husband in less than eight months. Total. They are a spectacular couple who are now expecting their first child. So yeah, fast is definitely okay under the right circumstances.


  3. wow. big wow. big, big congrats to both of you!

    you keep such a low actual relationship profile on this blog, this news is, like wib said, just uber.

    ubercongrats, yes.

  4. Wow! He's a lucky man
    Hope you get a whole dresser for your stuff now:)

  5. Congratulations, my friend! I am so incredibly happy for you!


  6. Congrats!! If it's drama-free, it's meant to be. Ok, really cheezy. But, I bet your in a cheezy, giddy mood anyway.


  7. Congratulations!! I am so very happy for you. :)

  8. Oh congrats!!! I've been reading about him here and there, and had no idea things were that serious yet -- how great for you!

    It gives the rest of us hope :)

  9. Best wishes! And congratulations! And I'm so happy for you both!


  10. Congratulations! What a great entry to share your happy news. :-)

  11. Oh, you all are so lovely! I have just poured out so much angst here and was so excited to post something that makes me so happy!

    HKW - Thank you! They're my fave as well. And I like happy endings to my movies, no matter how implausible. :)

    WiB - Thank you thank you! I believe that's true. In fact, we're banking on it.

    kate.d. - Ah, thank you so much! I am sooo happy. And so happy to have good news to share.

    Mary - What a nice thing to say! And you made me giggle. We're buying me a dresser when we go antique shopping in a couple weeks. :)

    Cris - Thank you. You have definitely seen some of my lowest low moments. I'm so happy to share the good.

    Canaan - I am all kinds of giddy and cheesy! Definitely!

    Blonde - Thank you so much!

    Beach Bum - This is exactly what I was thinking - if I can find the perfect person, who is funny and odd and quirky and idiosyncratic in so many of the ways I am, all the more "normal" people in the world can, too!

    Dag - Thanks so much! You'll like him.

    DCBrownie - Thanks! I really was all kinds of excited writing it. Hell, I'm all kinds of excited period.

    VVK - Thank you, my friend!

  12. That's so wonderful! And fast is good. J and I had spent a total of 14 days together when he moved in with me. When you know, you know.

  13. Wow - I'm glad to hear that! You're clearly so happy together and now you have this great kid on top of it all!

  14. Congrats Lisa.... May you and your fiancé enjoy a lifetime of happy years together.

  15. Get out! That's so so so neat!

    I want to come to the prenup hen party!

  16. Awesome! Super big congrats! The two of you give me great hope!

  17. Congrats!!!! Here's to keeping the faith- now you can give us single people some hope :)

  18. Oh! Lisa! YAY!
    :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

  19. I have lurked for a long time,
    found you through Steve and the Hygiene Chronicles.
    Congratulations that is very exciting news. Good luck with the rest of it.

  20. Oh my goodness LISA! I am so ridiculously happy for you. I'm like "eating cheesecake while dancing around to early 90s club music in my underwear" happy. And that's about as good as it gets over here.

    Is it cliche to say that I can't think of anyone who deserves this more than you? Because I can't. Congratulations.

    (But really, shouldn't the congratulations go to him? Because he's the lucky one who now has YOU!)

  21. I can't believe I knew this before the rest of cyberspace. I should be a gossip columnist :)

  22. Oh yay! Congratulations! This is exactly how it's supposed to be: when it feels like home! So happy for you!

  23. oh that's so exciting and such a great little story. I hope you continue to amuse each other for all the years to come. b/c after a few years of marriage, it's the glance across the room (over the piles of toddler toys, messy paperwork, and generally disorgnized house you never thought you'd have) while you may be kind of angry about something and just bust out laughing as your husband is dancing to "hey diddle diddle" using the emabarassing moves you remember from your "hey shorty" bar days :) -Carrie

  24. This is one of the best blog posts ever. Congratulations!

  25. I have been reading you regularly for a long time, though I haven't commented often. Let me take this opportunity to say congratulations!!! You seem very happy, it just emanates from your post and to such an extent that I can't help but smile. It's weird, but even after an extremely crappy weekend, good news from someone I have never met can make the world seem like a much better place.

    I wish the best of luck to both of you. Whose place will you live in? Or will you move somewhere completely new?

    - Christine

  26. Holy CRAP!

    Can we all come to the wedding?

    Can we?

    Can we?


  27. Spartacus - Thanks for the kind wishes. We hope and plan to!

    Kerrie - Ha ha - thanks! If I have one, it would be great if you came!

    Food Rokz Man - Ah, thank you. I'm glad to hear that!

    Lady Brett Ashley - Thank you. I am all kinds of full of hope lately. Absolutely.

    A.S. - Thank you! Yes, YAY! :)

    Peter - Oh, I love Steve. Thank you for the good wishes!

    Gi-In - Thank you!

    Nicole - Wow - "eating cheesecake while dancing around to early 90s club music in my underwear" is the best description of happy! Thank you!!!

    HIN - Well, technically cyberspace already knew when I gave you the news. You must've been doing things like, oh, actually working, when you were at work this morning.

    Jo - Thank you thank you! Home is the best feeling.

    Shannon - Thank you! I appreciate that!

    Christine - Thank you so much! What a nice thing to say. Our plan is to live at his place. There's no way we could both fit in mine.

  28. Rich! Hi! I think that's beyond my budget, but I love the idea!

  29. Congratulations Lisa. I am excite dto hear .

  30. Congratulations Lisa. I am excite dto hear .

  31. OMG! I want to call you and scream my excitement into the phone.

    This is so amazing Lis!

    I am SOOOOOO happy for you.

    I am going to email you for all the deets.

  32. There are no words for how excited I am for you - we should all be so lucky to find a relationship like that.

    Congrats many times over :)

  33. Sean - Thanks so much!

    Slightly Disorganized - Thank you thank you! I'm super excitedhappydelighted!

    East Coast Teacher - What an incredibly lovely thing to say. Thanks so much!

  34. My dear friend, I could not be happier for you. your smile today said it all.

    BTW, you totally have to invite Rich. LOL

  35. Hey - I praised you via e, but let me praise you via this, too....lovely news.

  36. Lisa!!!!!

    I am deliriously happy for you. I'm with Wendy. You just know. When you describe him as "feels like home," that's it....exactly.

    Huge hug.

    (You know you're gonna have to YouTube this wedding or live blogcast it or something.....)

  37. THAT IS THE CUTEST THING EVER!!! Congrats, you "soon no longer single" lady! :)

  38. awwwwwwwwww congrats to you both!!!

  39. Wow!

    und viele herzliche Grüße!

    Alles Gute,


  40. Steve - Thank you thank you my friend. And Rich would be a total trip. :)

    David - Thank you!

    Almost - Yay yay yay! Thanks - about to email you back!

    DCup - That made me laugh out loud. I am sure that at least one of us will do something outlandish and camara-worthy! Big hug to you!

    Zandria - Ahh, thanks!

    h - Thank you! :)

    n - Vielen Dank! (I hope this is right - I looked it up online!)

  41. Wow! Congratulations! Wow!

    I'd throw confetti but then I'd have to clean it up.

    Congratulations! Yay!

  42. OH, WOW!!! I'm so happy for you. There is nothing better than spending your life with someone that is constantly entertaining you. Empress Bee ( knows all about that. That's amazing. Congratulations. My pregnancy hormones almost had me crying when I read the end. Good luck and have a lot of fun.

  43. CONGRATULATIONS! Mabrouk Habibti! I am so delightfully happy for you Will there be krunking at the wedding?

  44. Wow!

    I'm so happy for you!

  45. oh Lisa, I'm sitting in a class on Joint Ventures and tax-exempt status and my heart just catapulted when I read your post! I'm so happy for you!!!!!! You've made this dreadful class so much more bearable!

    Congratulations :-D

  46. Congratulations! I'm so happy for you both, and so glad you found each other!

  47. Maud - Ha ha! It's true - you would be cleaning it up. Thank you!

    Amisare - I have to say, that was one thing I really wanted and didn't think I'd ever find. Thank you! And good luck with your pregnancy!

    Kris - Thank you thank you, my friend! There probably will be, actually. Ha ha ha!

    Alexandra - Thank you!

    Moosie - Thanks, sweetie! I'm glad I made your class more bearable! :)

    Sarah - Thank you! I'm so glad we found each other, too!

  48. What? I am too busy to read for a month or so and then I read mention of *fiancee*, I had to jump to the dating section.

    Congratulations! Yes, fast can be good, that is how it happened for me 6 years ago and it is wonderful.


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