Thursday, December 24, 2015

Love and hugs to all of you

Holidays are such a time of both joy and expected joy--the hap-happiest time of the year! As such, they can be extra hard for people.
It's easy to forget this in the Christmas frenzy.

If you've lost someone, you live with your memories of times together, which almost always include holidays. And you miss the person even more.

Or sometimes you're more alone than you want to be, and you see all this togetherness! Families! Together! Every single one of which is probably happier than you!

It can feel very lonely.

Social media shows the sparkliest lights, the fanciest cocktails, the juiciest steaks, and that perfect family moment where everyone is getting along, or at least looks like they are. You see the picture of the happy family. What you don't see is that the parents had just had a fight. And right after the picture was taken, one kid whacked another and both started crying.

Our house cannot be the only place this happens.

I'm not saying we are always pretending. But life is still life, no matter what day it is.

It's a lovely, sparkly, loving time of year. And it's a stressful one.

Let's embrace those we love, and allow ourselves to miss those we've lost. And be gentle with ourselves and each other for not being perfect, or even close.

Life is a mix of the happy and the sad, and this doesn't stop just because it's Christmas. And sometimes Christmas makes us sad. Please, reach out if you are in a bad place. Reach out to your friends, your family, to me. Please don't feel all alone.

You are so very loved. We all are. I promise.

Big hugs and lots of love,



  1. Still loving your blog after all these years. I had been doing ok with the holidays, had a very fun morning (alone) with the kids and then Nathan showed up to take them to his parents and I immediately got emotional and had to go to the bathroom to collect myself, didn't want Jane to see me crying. I know he knew and then wouldn't even look me in the eye. Even worse later in the day when he dropped the kids off at my family gathering. I looked at our pictures from 5 years ago today when I was pregnant with Jane and everything was so different. And it can change so fast. I hope a lesson everyone learns as they get older is to be kind, you never know what another person is going through.

    1. I am so terribly sorry. I get your post emailed to me. I am so sad for you--such a hard situation. Big hugs and lots of love to you and your kids. And yes, that's the lesson. Be kind because we are all going through things that other people have no idea about.


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